My wife had an affair several years ago and, although we tried to work it out, it isn't. We are both in agreement that we should get a divorce. Although we were married nearly 19 years, there is only one child who is now at college. My wife says we should do a divorce mediation because it may save us time and money over a contested divorce and she thinks we can work out the issues between us, mostly property division. But my question is whether I'm putting myself at a disadvantage in some way by doing a mediation instead of just going to divorce court. For example, I have a very large retirement plan that I've been building up over the last two decades and I wonder if somehow through mediation that asset would be on the table where it might not be in divorce court. Any thoughts?