Hello,
My husband has 3 kids and they live in CT and he has no say so in anything (I literally mean anything)for his kids and his ex-wife is certain that if we requested custody she'd win because they've always been with her. He is to the point where he feels like he is just a paycheck to her with the child support and the kids only come to see him to see what they can get out of him during their visit. He wants to continue to pay child support until they are 18 (as he's obligated to do as their father) but wants to do away with the visitation schedule and just send the money since it's all they are interested in anyway. The kids don't want to live with us because we have rules and structure and they have none of that with their mother and don't want to leave their friends in CT. She is financially irresponsible but apparently her attorney says that's not enough for a court to turn over custody. Does he or can he waive his rights as their father and just send the money until they are 18 or do we have to go to court for this?
Parent refusing to see kids after divorce
That sounds like a bad idea. But, in answer to the question, no court is going to force the kids to visit a father who does not want to see them. That would not be in the best interest of the children. Like thousands of other fathers out there, he could simply refuse to allow the visitation. However, your husband could go to court to formalize his refusal and to amend the visitation schedule. If you're talking about voluntary termination of parental rights, that doesn't happen in Massachusetts except in certain situations, such as when the kids are being adopted by a step dad.