I have a few questions, unfortunatly not being able to afford a lawyer, this site has been a HUGE help to me.
My divorce order was originally written in 2009, the order was written very vauge as far as times for visition on holidys, which my ex-wife uses to her advantage to make it very difficult for me to plan on those occasions. We have been to court many times to modify child support and visits but never holidays, I go on the 5th of december for the modifcation.
I am going to be asking to have my daughter every Friday after school till Sunday evening. My ex wife wishes for me to only have my daughter 6 days a month. Due to my work schedule I can't see her after school (I work 2nd shift)
My ex wife claims she gets no time with my daughter between her working and my daughter being in school (my ex-wife just started a part-time job and hasn't worked in over a year before that). Would it be unreasonable to ask for my daughter from Friday to Sunday?? I would be ok with my ex keeping my daughter 1 weekend a month or something close to that but every other weekend seems to be unfair.
My liscense was also suspended by DOR for non-payment of child support(I was unemployed and didn't receive benefits and I made the mistake of not asking for lower the support for that time). Since I have started working again I have made my payments on time as well as payments torwards arrears, but I still have an arrear balance. Is the judge able to write an order for DOR to release the liscense suspension??
My ex-wife also receives SSI for my daughter she never informed me of this, I found out looking at a letter from SSI to her Dr. I went to SSI to find out about it but they refused to tell me anything, is the judge able to include in the order that my SSA has to provide me with this information(i have joint legal of my daughter)
My ex-wife brings my daughter to the Dr. an AWFUL lot she has a minor genetic disorder that doesn't have any treatment and isn't serious it typically only requires yearly monitoring. My daughter has been to various Drs. Over 100x this past year, and when Drs tell my ex-wife my daughter is fine, she finds new reasons to bring her in (I'm starting to think she has some mental complex) Is there any reccomendations as far as what I could do about this situation?? I try to attend appointments when I can so I know what my ex-wife is saying, but she goes to boston for these appointments (we live in worcester county) so for me to make it there for every appointment is tough.
Any help to these questions would be greatly appreciated.
Modification regarding visitation
I'm glad that you have found some helpful information on the site. However, the more detailed and specific a person's questions get, the less appropriate this discussion forum becomes as a source of information. In other words, at some point, a person needs to find an attorney, either paid or some form of legal aid.
In general, you can follow this link for some information about modifying custody after a MA divorce, including info regarding required forms. I cannot predict how a court will rule, but your request sounds reasonable, and predictability is usually in the best interest of the child.
I have no experience with license reinstatement and can offer no information on that front. Your last "question" in which you describe something that sounds like Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome is troubling, (Munchausen is a serious diagnosis that I am obviously not qualified to make. But even if your ex is just a very nervous mother, she may need some help in that regard). At some point you will need to decide if your ex-wife's behavior is endangering the well-being of your daughter. This, as you know, is not a tool or weapon to get what you want from your ex, but an serious issue that, if broached, may require major changes in your custody agreement. In other words, if your wife has a mental illness that is endangering the welfare of your child, you may have to take a bigger role in terms of custody. I would encourage you to talk to an attorney who does family law in MA to get some sound advice on these issues. Sorry I can't be more help.