Sorry about your relationship with your divorce attorney (it doesn't sound good)  In any case, the four way meeting is a court mandated meeting that the parties and their lawyers attend prior to the pretrial conference.  The point of the meeting is to talk about the possibility of settling any outstanding issues and, ideally, avoid a costly trial. Typically, the four way meeting is held after all discovery is complete and the valuation and appraisal reports are in.  You don't sound too excited about the meeting, but, honestly, even if you cannot resolve all of your differences at the meeting, any you can resolve here (or at the pre-trial conference) can shorten the trial and save you money.  Good luck.  For more information or to post a question, visit our Massachusetts Divorce Discussion Forum.