Dress code and appearance for MA divorce?

Good question. I must start, however, by recommending that you not represent yourself in a contested divorce, especially if your husband is represented.  To your question, in general, you are absolutely correct that you should dress in a conservative manner that is appropriate for a court of law.  Your proposed outfit should be fine.  You do not want to stick out in court because of what you are wearing.  Instead, you want to blend in with the attorneys and other well-dressed litigants in the courtroom.  I know you would not do this, but clothes that are too tight, too bright, or show too much should be avoided.

In terms of your behavior at divorce court, the key word is respect.  You can visit the court anytime before your hearing to get an understanding of how things work.  This visit will also familiarize you with the driving directions and parking and help you accomplish your first goal:  Be on time.  When in the courtroom, even when you are waiting for your case to be called, do not do anything to draw attention to yourself.  Do not chew gum, do not play with or groom your hair, and do not leave your cell phone or beeper on.  Last, but not least, stand up when the judge enters, when you are speaking to her, and when she leaves. 

Finally, you can follow this link for some information about recent changes in MA law regarding alimony.    there is a lot to read, because the Massachusetts Alimony Reform Act of 2001 created some major changes.  Good luck with your divorce.